“What do you think about us having another baby?” I asked my husband while on a walk recently. I had been crazy enough to start thinking about “Number 2” a few months ago, and I brought it up many times before, but this time I was serious.
“I don’t know if we’re ready yet,” he replied. “Aside from us not being prepared financially, I think we still have a lot to figure out in regards to how we discipline,” he explained further.
I understood his reasoning, and to an extent I agreed. I brought up the following, however, in reply:
“I get that, but on the other hand, if you wait for perfect weather, you’ll never plant. And honestly, I don’t think we’ll ever have everything 100% figured out in regards to parenting; but we have God and we know we’re committed to each other, everything after that is just a plus.”
He nodded in silence and we walked on.
I’m not sure why the thought of having another one has been coming up so often, but it has. My husband and I have always talked about having a big family, and fortunately for us, Micah has been such an easy-going baby that in mind it always plays out that it won’t be so bad going through the newborn phase again. I must be delusional! God must’ve thought so too, because not long after I started having these thoughts a few months ago, I got food poisoning with a terrible case of nausea to remind me of what pregnancy was like!
Needless to say, since then, I’ve proceeded much more cautiously. Either way, I know there’s a lot I want to do before having baby number 2, like getting my body back into shape, having a more efficient daily routine with Micah, doing more reading on parenting, improving our finances, and having more clarity about what the future looks like for our family. Realistically, however, I know some, if not most, of these won’t be addressed before that time, but a girl can try!
Quite obviously, I’m torn on the issue. I know I need to wait a minimum of a year and a half to give my body time to recover, so at least we know it won’t be until then. Most importantly, we know God’s timing is best, and ultimately, we’ve placed everything regarding our life choices in His hands. But, I’m curious to hear from any mamas out there. When did you know it was time for another one?