Time For Another Baby???

“What do you think about us having another baby?” I asked my husband while on a walk recently.  I had been crazy enough to start thinking about “Number 2” a few months ago, and I brought it up many times before, but this time I was serious.

“I don’t know if we’re ready yet,” he replied.  “Aside from us not being prepared financially, I think we still have a lot to figure out in regards to how we discipline,” he explained further.

I understood his reasoning, and to an extent I agreed.  I brought up the following, however, in reply:

“I get that, but on the other hand, if you wait for perfect weather, you’ll never plant.  And honestly, I don’t think we’ll ever have everything 100% figured out in regards to parenting; but we have God and we know we’re committed to each other, everything after that is just a plus.”

He nodded in silence and we walked on.

I’m not sure why the thought of having another one has been coming up so often, but it has.  My husband and I have always talked about having a big family, and fortunately for us, Micah has been such an easy-going baby that in mind it always plays out that it won’t be so bad going through the newborn phase again.  I must be delusional! God must’ve thought so too, because not long after I started having these thoughts a few months ago, I got food poisoning with a terrible case of nausea to remind me of what pregnancy was like!

Needless to say, since then, I’ve proceeded much more cautiously.  Either way, I know there’s a lot I want to do before having baby number 2, like getting my body back into shape, having a more efficient daily routine with Micah, doing more reading on parenting, improving our finances, and having more clarity about what the future looks like for our family. Realistically, however, I know some, if not most, of these won’t be addressed before that time, but a girl can try!

Quite obviously, I’m torn on the issue.  I know I need to wait a minimum of a year and a half to give my body time to recover, so at least we know it won’t be until then.  Most importantly, we know God’s timing is best, and ultimately, we’ve placed everything regarding our life choices in His hands.  But, I’m curious to hear from any mamas out there.  When did you know it was time for another one?

12 thoughts on “Time For Another Baby???

  1. I like how you did that. I was waiting for the announcement. Lol.

    We knew we didn’t want more than two years between our kids and we prayed if it was what God wanted it would happen. And our second baby was conceived at day before we planned to start trying so it all worked out.

  2. I was getting excited and ready to congratulate lol. But I feel the same way you feel, except it is about when do I have my first 😊

    1. Lol! I’m glad I caught your interest! Truly, what I’ve found is that God’s timing is best. Just ask for the answers and He’ll provide them 🙂

  3. Like you said…”if you wait for perfect weather, you’ll never plant.”
    I agree on giving your body time to heal as we know the toll that pregnancy and birth can take on ones body is NOT to be taken lightly. After being married for 9 mos and feeling like my career was about to take off, I found out I was pregnant. I fell into a mini-depression where others feel that I should have been excited. I just thought the timing was a curse! In retrospect, I would have it no other way…because if all had gone as ‘I had planned’, I probably would still be childless. Needless to say, after being at home with my now three year old daughter, I actually got the “itch” when she was about 18 mos. I felt like I was “recovering” from what was a “colicky, very demanding and strong-willed infant”. Now that it seemed as though she was gaining independence, I felt a sense of freedom/ empowerment that “I could do it again”. Lol. I am actually pregnant as I type…almost 3 mos. this week. This comes as another surprise, but is welcomed. Happening again though when I was about to go ‘full throttle’ into my career. I’m trusting God’s plan. To be honest, I ‘secretly’ feel so happy that’s i am able to stay at home and pour into my daughter and husband (family) full-time…and enjoy it! Who better to do it for them than me anyway? I’m still trying to get over my extended family’s comments of: ‘when am I going back to pursue my career, or questioning of “what have you done all day?”, etc…as IF raising/nurturing a family 24/7 is NOT enough…rolls eyes…lol.

    1. I love this! lol I can totally relate! The career…the inquiring family…the unexpected blessings…everything! I also really appreciate the fact that you made mention of pouring into your daughter AND your husband. I think lots of women tend to remember the former and forget the latter. Lastly, and most importantly, CONGRATS! I pray for a safe pregnancy and delivery 🙂

      1. 🙂 Yes girl…even I am guilty of the pouring into my husband part. I have been getting better because I have made it a matter of prayer and am intentional. We can get so preoccupied with “the baby”, the to-do list, etc. But unfortunately hubbies can feel left out in the mix. Surround yourself with positive women that have been through it and are willing to share or someone that looks like they’re doing it right. Lol. Also, I encourage you to also let him do EVERYTHING and ANYTHING he is comfy with baby-wise from the ‘get go’…which may mean diapers go on backwards, butt not wiped properly, food all over the place, Wet floor after a bath…the baby will survive (I assure you…lol) and he will love and bond better with your little one. I was guilty of not doing this in the beginning or of being a bit critical and in the end it just left me feeling overwhelmed at times bc hubby got frustrated by my demands and “suggestions” And stopped trying to help… Just. Let. Go. Hopefully this isn’t a weak area for you!
        Thanks for your congratulatory remarks and the prayers. Praying for you too as you journey.

  4. Omg my baby is 6 months and I just asked my best friend today why I still have baby fever and why am I thinking about another child so soon. The reply: because I want kids and I’m enjoying the experience. I honestly don’t know if I want to wait a full year for recovery but I’m waiting to see what God has in store. I’ll have to wait if he wants me to. (My husband also gets a say lol and he wants to wait until our first can say ‘little brother or sister’. We’ll see!)

    1. I know the feeling! It was hard for me to convince myself to wait as well lol! At the end of the day, as you said, it’s a decision best made between you, your husband, and God 🙂

  5. I was just like you with babies on the brain right when Alayna turned one. I didn’t want to have my children all spaced out. But could I handle a toddler, full time school and a full time job???? I immediately shut the thought of having a baby out of my head. Abdi and I knew it was best to wait till we were more stable. Yea that was until I was super sick during clinicals one month. But then I kept feeling weird for weeks then it dawned on me to take a test. Surprise!!!! Micah will be getting another cousin in December. I was and I’m still worried how I’m going to do it but i know this is God’s gift to my family after all we’ve been through. I figure it out along the way.

    1. Praise God! That’s so exciting!!! Micah and I can’t wait! I’ll be praying for a safe pregnancy and delivery 🙂 And you’re absolutely right. This is an awesome gift and I know God will provide as you move into this next chapter.

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